Doors of our minds

We believe that God created us and then we invented and discovered so many things and progressed in the process. We are still learning and still figuring out things. It seems as God has made a huge jigsaw puzzle and spread its pieces in the whole world. Our task as humans is to keep looking for the pieces and put it together waiting for that one day when maybe the puzzle will be complete. In the rush to complete the puzzle fast, we have left back many such virtues that made us human and humane. Life is not only about proving oneself, it is more about living life and enjoying every bit of it.

If you see a child of two- four years, all they know is to have fun, to smile, to love, to question and to cry. Maybe God created us like that- full of emotions and without inhibitions. We as grown ups, thought our species to be "the intelligent lot" and goofed up all the innocence and ignorance that we were born with. We started teaching our babies to be "smart" and in the process, we became manipulative. We never try to observe them when they express different emotions. We sometimes overlook it and sometimes  just take it as a normal behaviour.  Although being a mother, I am sometimes unable to patiently keep answering the never ending questions of my little ones. I do get irritated because at there are other things running in my mind.

All in all life has become quite complicated. Sometimes I wish we were not so intelligent but only ignorant. Someone has rightly said- "ignorance is bliss". Why the rush to gather all the pieces of the puzzle. We should sometimes let our hair down and relax. It does not mean lying down on your bed or going for a vacation on some exotic location. We should let our mind relax. Our minds are full of thoughts. God has created an invisible door of our minds. We need to search for it and just like we close the doors of our bedrooms or our cabins so that no one comes in and disturbs us, similarly,  we should close the doors of our minds for a while and let it feel relaxed. I am not talking about meditation. For me jotting down my feelings in the form of this blog is a kind of relaxation. For some, just chit chatting with their partner could be relaxing. We just need to shut the doors of our minds from the unwanted thoughts and think of something that makes us happy. My hubby feels so relaxed and happy just watching our little ones sleep peacefully. That has a Spa effect on him.

All you need to do is to look inside and find one such mode of relaxation and do it whenever you are too disturbed. This closing of our mind's door is just a way to go back to our childhood when we had no concerns or duties, we only knew how to give love and that too unconditional love. I so much wish we all shrug the negative vibes around us at least for a while,  shake ourselves up and become kids once again.

 If we can find that invisible door of our mind, maybe someday we are successful in closing it PERMANENTLY.

Ek tho baat bolen?

We love to hear the most commonly used Bihari terms whenever we get a chance. Some of them are mentioned here although the list is endless.

Garda

Budhbak

Paglayie gaye ho ka?

Ek tho maachis dena re

When two women meet,  a sure shot conversation that happens:

First Woman: Bahut Shunder lag rahi hain aap,  kuchh karwayin hain kya? 

Second Woman: nahi re kuchho nahi karwaye hain. 

First Woman: Sachhe? 

Second Woman: Haan re tumse jhooth kahe bolenge re? 

First Woman: nahi aap eyebrow karwayi hain. Parle gayi thin aap. hain na?

Second Woman: nahi re,  Parle gaye hue to jaman ho gaya,  ghare mein pluck kiye hain. pata chal raha hai kya? thode sa to kiye hain. hum sonche nahi pata chalega.

 First Woman: nahi ekdumme change nahin lag rahin hain par badhiyan dikh rahi hain. 

Second Woman: Thank you re. 

First Woman: Achcha mera phace dekhiye to,  chamak raha hai kya?

Second Woman: nahi re otna to nahi bujha raha hai. Kuchh ki ho kya?

First Woman: dekhiye na,  ee naya parle mein phacial karaye the,  thag li humko. Kuchho pharak bhi nahi bujha raha hai. Ab dobara kahiyo nahi jayenge huan.

First Woman: Aur ka. Ee to galat baat hai. na re.

Second Woman: hmm. Ab to thaga gaye ab ka. Chaliye baat mein milte hain.

What fun conversation. I simply love it. n hope all of u also love hearing it. Achcha lage to likh dena na. pleaje re.  :)

Would definitely keep adding more to this particular blog for sure. Keep reading.

The Salman Effect

It all started when I was probably in class eighth or ninth. Even though we were not allowed to watch Maine Pyar Kiya movie( damn the director for keeping such a name for the movie), my love for Salman had planted its seeds deep within my heart. Oh! he looked so handsome. My dad thought it would have a bad impact on his daughters if he allowed us to watch MPK, but he was oblivion of the fact that I had already fallen for Salman.

Then one day I finally decided to introduce Salman to my dad and I went and bought a few posters of him. I couldnt gather the courage to put up his posters on my bedroom walls for some days. Then again one day my walls dorned my handsome hunk's photos. Luckily dad didnt see those posters for a few days and beleive me those days were heavenly. I  actually got a chance to talk to the love of my life every day.

The D day finally arrived. Dad came to my room one day and saw the posters on the walls. God knows why but he was furious. I am sure it was not at all because the posters were destrying the wall paint but it was something more than that. I felt very angry by dad's insecurity. Why this jealousy dad?  I wanted to ask him. I also wanted to tell him that although I loved Salman, my love for him was intact. Although I thought so much but could never gather the courage to tell all this to dad. So, with a heavy heart, I removed all the posters, rolled them and kept them on my shelf. Now each time I would miss him, I would take out the poster roll, talk to him and keep his posters back. I so much wished that some day I would meet him.

Its been ages since that incident happened but somehow I have still not been able to pull Salman out of my heart. Though I have matured, have a loving husband and two adorable kids but I can still manageto place him in a corner of my heart which still misses a beat when it sees Him. The other  day, I was casually browsing my Facebook page when I saw some friend's post where he had put some snaps of Salman when he had visited his son's playschool. God knows what happened to me but I so much wish I was there. I think he will always enjoy this special place in my heart even if I grow old. This Salman effect will always touch my heart. One thing that I never could tell my dad, I would like to tell my darling husband, that" please dont be jealous of Salman. He is my first love and it's a sweet memory that I will cherish in my heart. You are lucky that he never met me, otherwise what today is his loss would have probably been yours". LOL.